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Today is Tom’s first full morning at school nursery.  It was a sad moment and although we took him there for an hour yesterday to give him a “taste” of it, it was still sad.  When we got to the school there were lots of parents waiting to go in and our next door neighbour was also there with her little girl who Tom used to play with before all the hospital stuff anyway.  So he quickly found his feet with her and when they call them in he held hands with her and went off without so much as a mumour.  We followed him in and saw him off to his room when they all go first.  He sat on the floor and quickly started to chat with the other children, no backwards at coming forwards this lad.  So we went outside with him quite happily at “big boy school” and after a parting look through the window to check he was ok we went on our way.  Julie was a little choked as he’s now getting a big boy but he looks like he’s gonna love it any way.

Well tom’s been busy working Julie’s cousin Fred. As we understand it Tom’s managed to do his normal trick of wrapping them round his little finger. Following Fred’s offer to keep Tom there tonight so I can stay with Daniel & Julie tonight we decided to take him up on it. Just means that I’ll need to get up early to pick him up and take him to nursery before going off to a job in Nottingham.

Monday was Tom’s day for going to Julie’s Aunty, or as Tom calls her Nan Nan Sue.  That boy has talent, I mean he really does, he’s really learnt how to work Sue for what he wants.  He knows that if he doesn’t eat his dinner then rather than see him hungry Sue will let him have some crisps or other sundries but Tom was in for a real shock today.  We told Sue that if he doesn’t eat dinner then he doesn’t get anything else as he’s just junking out.  As stressed out as Sue was she did it bless her and he didn’t eat all day until I got him home.  However, yesterday when he went there again he threw a strop when he asked for crisps and was once again told no, but when lunch time he eat his dinner some mashed spuds and other stuff then later on had some jam on toast which really pleased Sue as his eating really does worry her.  As I said to her before, he’ll never starve himself his just trying to work it.  Nice one Sue.

The weekend hurtles forward as if the week had never happened and a once again things are organised so that I can get some time at the hospital with little Brussel, aka Daniel.  Overall he’s not had a bad day today although he has been sick twice but overall he’s done really well.  Still feeding ok but they didn’t increase the amount tonight as he had been sick earlier on, the aim is not to push him hard as was previously the case.  Julie managed to get a good nights sleep which has obviously helped ti improve her demeanor and general disposition.

When we got back from the hospital this evening I had a little reminder of how, not difficult but how awkward it is being a “single parent”.  When we got back Tom was absolutely shattered so he went straight to bed and straight to sleep.  When I got back downstairs and realised we’d got no milk, something simple as milk.  This meant breakfast was going to be a problem as they all eat cereal and since all three of the kids are just plain awkward toast just wasn’t going to cut it somehow.  This got me thinking to all of the other things that are difficult when you live alone with kids.  I used to go out on my bike for an hour after Tom was in bed but again can’t be done without a sitter and having one everynight would just be outrageous.  Popping round to visit  friends again you have a “curfew” as you have to be back for the kids bedtime.  In this situation you soon realise the incredible amount of planning that it required just to get through each day, admittedly it is a little easier when your family live nearby but life soon takes an shape that can only be compared to a military operation.  I recently saw a film, One Fine Day,  which really did show the disorganised chaos that ensues if you don’t plan your day this way.  So to all those folks out there whose life requires a precise schedule which needs to be obeyed otherwise things can’t be done then I now understand and you have my respect.

Once again Tom is off visiting so that I can get some time at the hospital, today he's off to Uncle Daz and Auntie Denise.  He spent most of the day playing in the paddling pool with Joe and was bouncing off the trampoline into the paddling pool!!! Does he really have no fear!?